Nancy Grace has tried and convicted Casey Anthony without the incumbrances of a jury or the legalities of a judge. So have a lot of people who have concluded — based on bits and pieces and glimpses of information — that Casey was a horrible mother and whether she did or did not intentionally kill her daughter, she should be held responsible. Period. Essentially, whether or not it was murder, it was murder.
And I get it. Parents are supposed to protect their children — especially young, adorable, big-eyed ones. When a parent fails in this role, it’s a capital “F” failure.
Then there is the red herring drug across the case by the defense which accuses George Anthony (I bet you don’t need me to tell you that he is Casey’s father and Caley’s grandfather) of a lifetime of sexually abusing Casey (starting when she was 8-years-old, they say) and therefore having undue influence over Casey.
I have no room for child-molesters. None. Zero. If I were queen of the universe (and we can all be thankful that I am not because I would not be good at that job at all), this is one category of criminal to whom I would not offer rehabilitation. My natural inclination is to execute, repentance or not. I’m not proud of the fact that my grace has limits. I’m also not ashamed to say that there are some crimes which earn the descriptor heinous.
And so, if sexual abuse is at all a part of the story in the Anthony home (a home that has proven to be a dysfunctional place at best), it may help explain all sorts of behavior. Still, it does not excuse the behavior that led to Caley’s death or that kept it quiet for a month even if it was more accidental than intentional.
Even if some boogy man stole Caley away from her mother and killed her, Caley’s silence about it is not excused. This is a part of the mystery that I think really has most of the people I know absolutely confounded and befuddled. And hurting…or is that just me?
Casey does not make sense.
For more than 30 days the trial has aired on live television in central Florida. (We missed Wimbledon Finals, among other things, in this part of the country.) I’ve watch all of about an hour total — most of that in 2-minute segments. The jury is currently deliberating and I am truly glad that I did not get called to this service. Their job is not an easy one.
Now that the lawyer posturing and finger-pointing is over (at least round one) in the courtroom, I find myself sorely disappointed. I really wanted there to be a Perry Mason moment when it all became crystal clear and we knew the truth. I really wanted something to prove something more than it did. I don’t know if I could return a GUILTY of 1st DEGREE MURDER conviction if I were on that jury — I’ve not followed closely enough to say. I think I wanted it to be easier for them — for all of us — to put all this behind us as a community and it appears that may not be how it works out.
All of that rambling to get me to what I was thinking this morning as I watched the experts on the TODAY Show were suggesting about all of this and as I realized that thousands of us have invested some time and emotion and thinking into untangling this mess. What if it’s not what we think?
I’m not suggesting some alternative timeline for what happened as if we’ve all missed the story. I’m asking myself if we have focused too much on the lawyer battle and the media feeding frenzy.
What if we think it’s all about Casey Anthony and her family and the judicial system when it’s really all about us? What have we become that lets this happen? How much responsibility do we all carry in this?